When a movie, or something in it, leave’s you with a lasting impression, long after you’ve watched it & keep’s reminding you with that something, that you take with you, I feel, the purpose is served, making it a movie worth watching. I’m speaking of the movie, Batman Begins (2005). This post isn’t meant to be a review of it. It’s about something that registered in my mind as i watched it the first time, & constantly awakens my mind anticipating the moment when I will hear this dialogue once again, from the character Thomas Wayne to young Master Bruce after the latter fell into a kind of a well.

Thomas Wayne: And why do we fall, Bruce? So we can learn to pick ourselves up.

That is a strong statement at a time when a father (Thomas Wayne) could just have easily pacified a hurt child (Master Bruce) in any other way by just caressing the wound, or telling the child it wasn’t his fault at the fall or by means of trying to erase the pain by offering candy to the child. I remember how parents at times, in reality, tell their children to slap or hit an object that has caused the little ones to fall. Sometimes the kids do as their parents say & retaliate to the cause of the fall with a hit or parents do it themselves just to pacify the child by hitting or tapping the object, just to invoke a sense of having taken ‘revenge’ from the cause of the fall. And that is so wrong! When one can teach a right lesson to kids after a fall, a lesson that’ll build them up mentally for such obstacles, why teach them something wrong?

And why do we fall?

Christian Bale as Bruce Wayne/Batman

The dialogue quoted above has definitely left it’s mark on me. It’s a lesson that I’ve come to learn myself at times, maybe subconsciously, but I’ve never come across a more simple statement that could be so motivating & uplifting. Each time that I listen to that line, I get a feeling of adrenaline running through my veins & down my spine. Kudos to the writer’s. The same line is next uttered in the very same movie by another famous character of the film Alfred Pennyworth, to the now grown up Bruce Wayne.

Alfred Pennyworth: Why do we fall sir? So we might learn to pick ourselves up.
Bruce Wayne: You still haven’t given up on me?
Alfred Pennyworth: Never.

There is so much to take away from it. Each time I fall, each time I commit a mistake, I don’t hate myself for it. True, that the sense of having faltered gets overwhelming at times, at that very instant, leaving very little scope for taking out any positives from it. But sooner or later, as I back-track to those occurrences & faults, I realize that I’ve always learned something out of it. The will to go on, no matter how many obstacles come up is what drives the achievers. I’m getting there too with every new & unexpected fall. It’s a fact that when you fall, the region where your bone makes contact with the object that causes the hurt gets calcium deposited over it, hardening that area more than before. Likewise, each fall in life should leave you with an added deposit, of will power, of self-belief, of strength, of inspiration, of a desire to get up and rise above the fall. There will be times when you fall alone, when you will look around and there will be no one to help you rise up, when people you expect to rush to you with help will be too busy to notice you’ve fallen, when there will be someone jeering & mocking you at having fallen, when you will want to stay down, afraid of getting up only to fall again as you approach your goals in life.

These are the times when you need to remember the simplest & most powerful lesson from a fall, Why do we fall? So we can learn to pick ourselves up. It’s exactly the way we learned to walk from the initial crawls as a toddler, & it’s exactly the way that we have to walk ahead in life, as obstacles come our way. Take the good out of life, look at the bright side of a fall.

Supposing you have tried and failed again and again.  You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call “failure” is not the falling down, but the staying down.  ~Mary Pickford

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Love or Is It?

Posted: August 24, 2010 in Human Nature
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Love is one topic, subject rather with such a vast syllabus; that even a lifetime is insufficient to fully understand it. It is one thing that make’s the 4 years put into attaining a B.E degree seem easier. Yes, I always thought that getting a B.E degree would be the most testing time of my life, but LOVE beat’s everything. Love beats reasoning & ideology, heck, love can even get you ‘beaten’, literally. Why then am I writing all this stuff? It’s for the simple reason to add to already existing vastness of ideas & thoughts that one encapsulates love to be. My process of thoughts started with a little provocation. One odd proverb, which i personally feel doesn’t deserve to be called proverb because it’s more of a non-sensical statement, one that you might overhear at a bar uttered by someone totally wasted.
I always wonder why moving on after a failed relationship is so difficult. It always seems like WE make it difficult for OURselves. We say we’ve been through a period of TRUE LOVE. Atleast until one reaches 30, which is the minimum age limit that I am taking here, there are undoubtedly numerous such encounters. How does each such encounter amount to TRUE LOVE. Here I am only considering the one sided affairs or attractions because affair is most often two-sided, some feelings involved from both the guilty parties. Attraction can be one-sided, one lost soul wandering the bylanes of affection. Love cannot be defined, as it is probably the single most complex emotion in this world.
The provocative statement was,

“True love never dies, even if you have found a new love, the sweet memory of the past will continue to hunt you for the rest of your life.”

How the HELL? and that’s a really pissed how the HELL? can that above statement ever make sense? I’m starting to rant but it’s just 2 lines of rant & for once I strongly believe that I am right.
Here I put forth my justifications, like love’s lawyer, trying to defend it’s sanctity, the purity & happiness that it pours upon it’s recipient. I’ll break-down the statement and reason its senselessness where it shows.

1. “True love never dies,…”

–  Agreed, the only thing that’s worth giving any thought.

2. “… even if you have found a new love,…”

– Now wait a second ! Found new love? What was the old one that you got out of then? Fantasy? Very much so! If you (i.e. WE) have found new love, then what existed earlier can very well be dismissed, without second thought as pure fantasy, attraction. To summarize, ‘infatuation‘. The very strong liking for someone which is so much like Love, that it fools us into believing that we love someone, that’s infatuation. It is so powerful, that it mimics all the common feelings felt in love, the strong wanting to be with someone, wanting someone’s attention, feeling strongly attracted, continually thinking of that someone. It’s like consulting a ‘Baba Bangali’ or ‘Tantrik‘ than visiting a Doctor.

3. “…the sweet memory of the past will continue to hunt you for the rest of your life.”

– Bullshit ! Utter bullshit. Nightmare’s hunt you, rather haunt you! Not sweet memories 🙂 Sweet memories are cherished, not taken as a bad dream that follows you long after you’ve woken up from sleep. If you let the sweet memories hunt you, then you are cheating on the new love you’ve found. You are not giving yourself into it 100%, and hence you are NOT in love again. You are merely testing the waters at the shore than drowning mid-ocean in love. It sucks to think that way, second love n sweet memories. Have you ever thought what you are doing to the person, this second love, if they were to love you? (and NOT BE infatuated by you) You are walking over them like a carpet, over their emotions. It’s hard to find true love, and if this second love is true, from this second person about you, then you are just insulting their feelings and emotions. Letting something of the past, which was never meant to be, to run rampant over what is and what could be the future of something sacred and beautiful. It’d break down this other person if they were to get the slightest whiff of this inability of you to get over something insignificant and start afresh. It would make them cry from the inside (& they may not show it), when they see every emotion of love that they show, get near you, but not into you. It would tear their heart to think of you trying to get rid of something that you could let go of, like discarded clothes. Taken off, n done with. Maybe they’d help you get over, maybe they won’t and let you find your way back to life, hoping that with time, all will be well. Instead, one needs to learn to realize when one has experienced true love. One needs to pay attention to the love one receives, like that from one’s parents &/or friends, and this second person.

If you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn’t have fallen for the second – Johnny Depp

True love is selfless, unquestioned, unbiased, unprejudiced & sacrificial. It is true love that makes a person be there for you through thick & thin. It is true love that makes a person do everything, sometimes beyond human limit, for you. It is true love that makes a person stick with you, while you are lost back in time with memories of your infatuated self. It is true love that makes you wanna pray for someone, for their well being, instead of making you pray, ‘God, please let him/her love me’. It is true love that never gives up, beyond time & space & beyond all constraints. It is true love that makes a person accept you as you are, faults & limitations included, knowing your dreaded past, and still wanting to make your present and future beautiful with you. True love is so much more!

Let true love get to you, don’t let infatuation punch it in the face. Learn to let go, things were never meant to be if they never happened. Respect & love the love you receive. Love is beautiful, sacred. You can never mistake its sanctity, one of the many characteristics that differentiates it from infatuation. You would know when you have found & experienced true love. One proverb that stands very true is,

“If you love someone, set them free. If they come back to you, you’ve found true love, if not, it never was.”

And that’s the truth.

P.S: If you like/disliked this post or have a strong urge to reply or the faintest feeling of putting forth your views, please do so in the comments below, I’d really appreciate it. And I promise, i wont rant about it.. i’ll try.

In Pieces

Posted: August 22, 2010 in Poetry

It’s odd that i should experience short term amnesia right when i login into my blog, but who can tell what’s going to happen. Probably the same amnesia caused me to forget my once oh-so-loved-by-me-blog 😦

In Pieces

I held on for too long,
I didn’t know.
The pain held inside,
I didn’t show.

Love could end so fast,
I couldn’t believe.
To go on without you,
I couldn’t percieve.

Those moments of love,
Were everything to me.
To love you all along,
Was my chosen destiny.

I guess fate didn’t want it,
My love for you, now you didn’t need it.
Times changed & things weren’t like before,
The joy in your smile wasn’t there anymore.

To realize you were gone,
Shred & tore my heart.
I wished you would never have promised,
To never go apart.

All that’s left now,
Is pieces of me.
Putting them back together,
Just hoping you’ll see.
That each piece of my heart,
Has nothing in it, but you.
You’ve moved onto a new love,
But i will always love you.

Disclaimer: The above lines bear no resemblance to my current state of being and is merely a work of fiction 🙂 Any conclusions drawn will not be entertained.

Never too late

Posted: August 11, 2010 in Poetry

Building after a storm,
It’s never too late.
Storms can’t tear the spirit.

Rising up after a fall,
It’s never too late.
A fall can’t break determination.

Owning up to a mistake,
It’s never too late.
Mistakes can’t stop self-discipline.

Trying a task once given up on,
It’s never too late.
Giving up can’t erase the will to succeed.

Forgiving after a hurt,
It’s never too late.
A hurt can’t erode mercifulness.

Loving after losing someone,
It’s never too late.
Losing can’t conquer love.

It is so often said & quoted, “Seek and you shall find”. Love defies it & finds you. And it makes me wonder how !?!
I feel love is more than just an emotion, it just continues its endless journey, seeking souls that complete each other & letting them find love between them, without either going on a love finding journey by themselves.

Those that go searching for love, only manifest their own loveless-ness. And the loveless never find love, only the loving find love. And they never have to seek for it.
– D. H. Lawrence

Superstar

Posted: June 9, 2010 in Poetry

Originally written as a dedication to a special someone that I lost somewhere in time.

Superstar

I watch the stars,
Lining up in the sky,
I look for the brightest one,
But i cant spot it up high.
I wonder where it has gone,
I wonder why i cant see,
The star that was always there,
Lighting up the sky for me.

Oh my star, where you are?
Why dont you come to me?
Have you burned out?
Or have the heavens set you free?

Scanning the horizon,
I see a shooting star,
My heart skips a beat,
Do i accept defeat?
In the distance it fades away,
Into the ground, just crash & burn.
The final glimpse, a dying spark,
A star that cant light up the dark.

Oh my star, where you are?
Why dont you come to me?
Have you burned out?
Or have the heavens set you free?

I turn around, amazed to see,
An angel stand in front of me.
Her jet black hair, darker than night,
Her eyes lit up, fiery bright.
Her smile radiates a magnificent glow,
Her silken robe, like winter snow.
As she moves in closer, i start to freeze.
I try to speak, but words dont release.
Shes looking at me,
Trying to read my mind.
Beyond my doubts & fears,
She has my question to find.
She powers on, as i try to hide,
Her mystic aura with my thoughts collide.
She smiles at me, as i realise,
She’s here for me, to my surprise !
“Who are you?”, i ask, “From where you are?”
“I burned down from the heaven’s “, she says, “I’m your superstar.”

The Beautiful Game

Posted: June 7, 2010 in Sport

The world’s most popular sport takes centre stage in 4 days time in South Africa. Needless to say, the fever of the FIFA World Cup has started to grip football fans all over the globe. Much has been said & discussed about the squads selected for the 32 participating nations. This time, each country seems to have a fair chance of getting the title of World Champions. Being an avid football fan & follower, i will be rooting for one nation to win the world cup. For the past 2 editions, i’ve supported England; a team of tremendous talent but one that has failed to deliver since 1966. Choosing a squad for England, Fabio Capello must seriously have been spoilt for choice. The number of stars that compete with international standards for their respective clubs in competitions such as the domestic league & the UEFA Champions League give the manager a pool of players where one has atleast 3 players for a spot in the team. Nonetheless, the squad that will participate are capable of going all the way. Yet, this time i look to support Spain. I’m not changing fan base to the Spaniards but just curious to know how the Euro 2008 champions will fare. David Villa and Fernando Torres can run riot against any defence and having the Euro player of the tournament in Xavi, much is expected from the squad that didnt go far in 2006. My instinct say’s Spain will be crowned champions.

It is unfortunate for players who will miss out on the platform that every player looks to take in their career, the chance to win glory for the country seldom comes ones way. Sadly some players didnt make it to their national squad while some will miss out with injury. The chance has gone by this year.

Nonetheless, the beautiful game will captivate audiences with its thrills, excitement & maybe a few controversies( who can forget Zidane’s infamous headbutt in the 2006 finale ). I look forward to what will be the biggest sporting event of the year.